Emily argues that we rarely notice when we’re agreeing with someone because we like them, rather than because their logic is sound. That charismatic coworker? That charming salesperson? That influencer who feels like a friend? You’re not just being social—you’re being influenced.
In Part 4, Emily shares a quiet story: a manager who kept promoting a well-liked underperformer because “everyone wanted him on the team.” Liking overrode competence. Sound familiar? influence 2 part 4 emily
Influence, Chapter 2, Part 4: The Uncomfortable Truth About "Liking" (And Why It’s Not About Being Nice) Emily argues that we rarely notice when we’re
Your integrity isn’t in your warmth. It’s in your awareness. That influencer who feels like a friend
It sounds warm, fuzzy, and harmless. But in Influence, Chapter 2, Part 4 , Emily pulls back the curtain on the Liking principle—and her take is sharper, darker, and more useful than the typical “just be friendly” advice.
Her point: Liking isn’t a leadership tool—it’s a cognitive bias. And when you don’t name it, it runs the table.
We’ve all heard it: “People buy from people they like.”